Overcoming Adversity – Staying Positive When Life Falls Apart

Adversity – Staying Positive When Life Falls Apart

We take a lot of good things for granted in our everyday life. A roof over our heads, a steady paycheck, a loving partner, the ability to go out for a run on the weekends. The specifics vary, but one of the big advantages of modern lives is the many awesome things we can count on. We’re not used to falling short, so when something happens and our life starts to fall apart, it’s easy to fall into thinking patterns that focus on lack and despair.

It’s hard to stay positive when life falls apart, but it’s not impossible. Here are a few things that can help:

1) Get perspective.

One of the best ways to snap out of a negative spiral is to take a step back and get some perspective on what’s going on. Write down a list of all the good things in your life, even if they seem small. They’re still good things, and they’re worth remembering.

2) Take care of yourself.

This is especially important when you’re feeling down. Make sure you’re eating well, getting enough sleep, and spending time with people you love.

3) Reach out for help.

Don’t try to go through tough times alone. There are plenty of people who want to help, and it’s okay to ask for help.

4) Stay positive.

This one is hard, but it’s worth it. Stay focused on the good things, even when things are tough. Remember that everything eventually comes to an end, and that includes tough times.

5) Give yourself time.

It takes time to pick up the pieces after something bad happens. Don’t expect to feel better overnight. Be patient and give yourself the time you need to heal.

Adversity is an inevitable part of life, but it doesn’t have to be a negative experience. With the right attitude and perspective, you can stay positive and get through anything that comes your way.

Sometimes the bad things are a result of choices we made. Sometimes they are outside of our control. In either case, it is up to us to decide how we react to each crisis. One piece of advice that is important to remember no matter what adversity you face is to make sure you don’t forget about how blessed you really are. Gratitude can turn what we have into enough. 

There’s a quote I love and would like to share with you by Melody Beattie. Here it is: 

“Gratitude turns what we have into enough, and more. It turns denial into acceptance, chaos into order, confusion into clarity…it makes sense of our past, brings peace for today, and creates a vision for tomorrow.” 

Think about how you can start to do this in your everyday life. A good place to start is to simply take a deep breath and pause for a moment when things go wrong and everything is starting to feel overwhelming. Then come up with one little thing you are grateful for during this time. It can be something as simple as being able to breathe fresh, clean air, or living to fight another day. Just start with one small thing and eventually, that will turn into enough.

Life is full of hardships.

We will all experience them at some point. The key is to not let those hardships define us. We are so much more than our struggles. Stay positive, be strong, and never give up on yourself. You can and will get through anything that comes your way. 

Find that something and start to build on it.

What else are you grateful for? Keep making that mental list until the desperation starts to lift and you can start to think clearly. When you do, you can start to find your way out, no matter how bad things seem at first. And remember, you never know what good might come from the struggle you are facing right now. 

When life gives you lemons, make lemonade, and don’t forget to count your blessings and use gratitude to turn what you have into enough. Our ancestors were great at this. It’s time we picked that habit back up.