Apply These 7 Techniques To Improve Your MOTHER DAUGHTER Relationship

Mothers Day is around the corner. Unfortunately, not a lot of people have good relationships with their mothers if they even have one at all.

My relationship with my mom is fortunately good. Now, this was not always the case. Now, I love my mom (not that I didn’t before), but we have not always seen eye-to-eye.

Of course, as teenagers, many teenage-adult relationships aren’t the greatest most of the time.

As you get older, it does get better. We still have our ups and downs but never anything too detrimental to our relationship/friendship.

It takes time, patience, and an attitude expressing that you want a better understanding and grasp on one another. Life is too short to argue and hold grudges.

Here are 7 tips on how to beef up your mother-daughter bond like a pro!

1. Agree to Disagree

You don’t always have to be right. At the end of the day, she’s going to have her opinion and you’re going to have yours. That’s what makes the world go round. If your mom says something you don’t care to hear, listen anyway. It’s okay to not agree with what she’s saying, just do so respectfully.

2. Maintain Boundaries

Maintaining boundaries is giving each other respect. Respect the fact that neither one of you want to touch on certain subjects, so don’t. If there is a subject you would rather not discuss with your mom by any means, let her know that, respectfully. And the same goes for your mom. Ask her if there is any topic she would rather not discuss with you. Staying away from sensitive issues that you know will get the both of you all roweled up is okay. In due time, when either one of you feels the time is right, that’s when you all can talk about it.

3. Don’t Hold Grudges

Everyone fights with a loved one at some point in their life. That is no reason to stop talking to them forever or give them the silent treatment for who knows how long. Like I said earlier, life is too short to hold grudges and be upset with someone. They can be here today and gone tomorrow. I wouldn’t want that weighing on my heart, and hopefully, you don’t either. Peace equals love here people.

4. Empathize

Try to understand your mom. Think about if you were in her shoes, how would you feel. Empathizing with someone can be a game changer. Once you do this, they start to feel more open and connected with you on a deeper level. Empathizing with her will make your mom more comfortable and calm when speaking with you. It creates a sense of tranquility.

5. Go On A Date

Here comes the fun part. Have a mom-daughter day. Go shopping, get a pedicure, or get a massage, or if you’re anything like me and my mom, go to the grocery store *LOL. Side note: My mom loves the grocery store. I go with her, and we stand in the bread aisle for about twenty minutes while she picks out the perfect loaf HA HA. My point is, it’s the little stuff that can make your mom happy. You don’t have to do anything major. Find out what your mom likes, even if its the simple things and go out and do them with her. Can’t you just feel the love in the air?

6. Spend Time Apart

It is perfectly healthy to spend time apart from your mom. Space is key to any healthy relationship. You don’t want to smother each other too much. Growing tired of each other is the start of a recipe for disaster. That’s when the arguing and agitation start to kick in. Creating a balance with time spent together will make the time you both spend together even more meaning.

7. Appreciate

APPRECIATE your mom. Like I said a few times already, life is too short to hold grudges. Even though it may not seem like it, she always has your best interest in mind, at least in her head she does lol. * It’s all love people*. No matter what, she will always have a special place in your heart. And even though it may not seem like it at times, you will always have a special place in hers. Through the arguments, tears, and headaches, there is love, happiness, her being proud of you, her being appreciative of you, and her still loving you unconditionally through all the BS even though you may not sometimes see it.

In the end, mend the broken or on the verge to be broken relationship with your mom. Create healthy boundaries and know each other limits. Your mom is irreplaceable in your life.

AGAIN, LIFE IS TOO SHORT.

Sorry, I can’t stress that enough.

Any-who, what do you all have planned for Mothers Day? Breakfast or maybe brunch? Shopping or spa? Or perhaps the grocery store in the bread aisle like me LOL just kidding.  Let me know in the comments below. Or if you want to talk more personally, just shoot me an email at andrea@learnlovehealth.com.

I haven’t quite figured out what I’m going to do for Mothers Day yet. I’m a last minute person as well. I hope your Mothers Day flourishes and hope your relationship with your mom makes it to new heights.

Talk to you soon

Andie 🙂